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Rape : A need of different perception of it
Arjun , NCR: Jun 27 2007

Rape : A need of different perception of it
Few days ago one of our teachers asked us to comment on the idea of penalizing the crime of rape with death penalty. Unanimously the whole class agreed with it.

How can we not agree with it? Even the death penalty, which is the highest punishment awarded to any criminal seems lenient for what a victim has to suffer. The victim has not only been physically assaulted, psychologically terrorized , given lifelong nightmares of that dreadful moment, but she has also been forced to suffer daily, for all of her rest of life, with taunts and remarks made by society for no fault of her except being a women.

But we need to ask ourselves that whether it is only the offender who is responsible for all the sufferings of the victim or the society also has some hand in victimizing the wounded. Why has she to be treated like an ‘impure’ person? Why has she to be ostracized from the society or has to be pitied? We need to ask ourselves why ‘rape’ is such a big thing? Because she has been ‘deflowered’ or she has to get an abortion which may never allow her to be a mother again? It seems that as a society we see the role of women only as somebody whose purpose is to provide ‘pure’ pleasure of sex to male or as a machine that procreates and brings an heir to the family. Isn’t it so?

The point which this blasphemous article endeavors to put across to you is that the name ‘rape’ itself is used as a weapon against the victim and we need to do away with the offence of ‘rape’ itself. It should be put under the ‘grievous hurt’ category. It should no more be compared with murder as equating itself work as a post act accomplice. And when we can have the crime of castration as ‘grievous hurt’, then why can’t be rape?

The author is aware of the social condition of women in society and is not disregarding rape as an outrage, all he is suggesting is that the names like ‘outrage’, ‘blot’, ‘raped’, etc itself aggravates the troubles of victim.

The reader is requested to visualize, only for a few minutes, a legal and social system where there is no offence of ‘rape’. A victim is treated as ‘grievously hurt’ who may have to bear the consequences of the horrendous crime like a victim who has lost one of his/her body parts. But the victim is not stigmatized and is allowed to live rest of her life without any kind of taunts or remarks or ostracism. The victim is encouraged to get an abortion, in case of an emergency. There is also a provision of life long governmental care of child if the victim doesn’t want to raise the child herself. Even the problem of high under-reportage of the crime, which is just a fraction of reality, would be helped as the victim is no more deterred by society. Also, the offender no more takes non-reportage of his heinous act for granted.

It is submitted that the changing name would not prove to be panacea and still we would be requiring many other developments including changing the general notion about sex. We may need to do away with the idea that the honor of women resides in her body. We need to realise that women also has an existence excluding her body. But including ‘rape’ into ‘grievous hurt’ could prove to be the first step towards the egalitarian society which is urgently needed to emancipate women.

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Michael C
Lyon, France
This is an excellent and thought-provoking article, and I thank you for putting it up.

You have opened up a Pandora’s box here. Ok, I’ll roll my sleeves up and get in there (I usually do LOL!).

I’d just like to add a couple of observations I’ve made over the years.

It is to my great regret that the victims of rape are often instumentalised by people who just shouldn’t be there, feminists, friends who fan the flames, female politicians to name but a few. Rape has nothing to do with feminism or politics. It’s a crime, that’s ”all”. It’s a crime that should be severely punished, but it IS just a crime, and not a reason for extrapolating the issue.

It is incontestable that rapists tend to fall into several categories, lonely/frustrated men, drug/alcohol users, machos and bullies. And all these phenomena are social issues that need to be addressed if rape figures ar gong go decrease. You’re right.

Having said that, rape has always existed and is, at the end of the day, the physical domination of one human sex (women) by the other (men). It’s violent and should be severely sanctioned. I have no sympathy for the long prison sentences that some rapists get.

My conclusion? This article makes it clear that ther’s too much emotion and irrelevant stuff going on around rape, and that’s not, as you imply, helping to resolve the problem....

We need to cut the crap and start looking this thing right between the eyes.

Thanks Arjun!
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Arjun
NCR, India
Hey Micheal thanks man..

Your highly appreciative comment is a real treat for someone like me who has been up such kind of outsider/ stranger ideas..

So it really feels great that someone else also sees it in that way.


i totally agree with you that many times feminism has harmed women more.

While studying feminism i felt that women were seen as weak. i just felt that they should fight the battle thinking themselves as equal, and here i think feminism has failed because they start from the assumption that women are weak.

Anyway welcome to the pandora’s box.

I just believe that anybody violating anybody’s right should be punished no matter how the violation has been committed.

And further i don’t want say that it is because of physical domination of one sex, but because of that perception in the mind of everybody.

Thanks again for appreciation and understanding my viewpoint .
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Michael C
Lyon, France
The pleasure’s mine...

Hey man, I’m gonna have to seriously start lookin at your stuff! I don’y know much obout ”local” Indian affairs, I’m afraid,but I just scrolled through your titles, and there are lots of Pandora’s boxes, traps, booby-traps, devil’s advocates, challenges.

And I ujst love that, as you may or may not have seen in some of my stuff.

Hah, get ready to receive some equally off-the-wall points of view!!

Yeah!!

Seeya around...
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Arjun
NCR, India
Micheal
really I didn’t knew about your articles much.

man they are interesting, and really you are among those guys who is not afraid of believing in himself and saying it unabashed.

It really justifies the worth of time of writer and reader.

Man it will be fun reading more of your stuff.
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Oscar
Oaxaca, Mexico
Arjun,

I would have never caught this post, thanks for putting the ink up to get to it.

I LIKE what you are saying, as it gives much thought and true respect for the woman..

I have to admit, I’ve , while I feel rape is beyond atrocious, sadly I have never really sat to think about it more in depth, as you have..

Rape...although it would most generally cover the emotional aspects, it is legally a PURELY sexual violation...a right that is being taken and can be not only from the body, but mind, heart and soul..

Maybe there should be a shift towards the word VIOLATION vs RAPE and it should be used to focus on the breach of these rights in general.

I have been awakened by your insight.. Thanks..
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Arjun
NCR, India
Thanks Oscar,

It is really a great feeling finding people agree with your viewpoint which is not a prevalent one. As a writer you yourself must be aware with such a feeling, and can imagine how elated I am.

I totally agree that crime of rape is not merely physical but also psychological.

On the other hand i will say that it is more of psychological, and it is the society through its wording which makes that psychological un-healable.
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What a crucially important topic you bring up Arjum! Yes, society’s general attitude toward rape victims is a greater torture than the act of forced sex itself. Social psychologists and analysts have debated the issue of rape as something that is rooted in the society’s attitude. The rapist is, most of the time, motivated more by ’hurting’ the woman rather than having sexual pleasure. That is why rape takes place so often even in societies where prostitutes are easily available. So why rape then? Because the criminal knows that the woman and her family will suffer unceasing persecution by everyone, even though no one will verbally say that the victim is to blame.

Thanks for the post! And what should be, in your opinion, the right kind of punishment for a rapist? Should it vary from case to case?
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Arjun
NCR, India
Thanks Karim for the encouraging comment .

But I will say i am no expert in criminology and is not the right person to comment how to be make punishments efficacious. Still, i believe there should be a single punishment which should not vary case-to-case. No punishment can ever make the circumstances same for the victim, as were before the fateful moment, but still punishment should be given so that victim should that justice has been done, and also the other members of society should have deterrent view.


But again a victim should not suffer just because s/he has been unfortunately been a victim. And for that society should ensure that we make such a judicial and societal system that one continues to feel a part of society, not apart from society .
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Shahwar K
kolkata, India
Mr.Arjun!

I am glad I walked in here!

A great post, scaffolded with great legal insights, and some salient observations and propositions which makes this a worthwhile read!

you have consciously steered into those societal compartments which are being preserved just to aggravate the hurt and pain of a particular gender!

I and i hope all sensible people out here will agree to what you have so keenly put up in your post, and i am glad that there are thought processes like your’s also existing in the society!

categorising rape as the sole yardstick of a woman’s tarnished virtue, only worsens the situation, and in course of her dilemma the victim is raped again and again, everytime the word is uttered either in sympathy or apathy!

I congratulate you for a genuinely stirring article!

but i disagree with one statement...
”The point which this blasphemous article ...!”

sounds like a contradiction to your arguments...
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Arjun
NCR, India
Thanks for the encouraging comment Shahwar,

For you point about the blasphemousness of the article, i will like to say, in humor or in justification, that as an atheist that supports my point .

In my little experience of life I have found God to be a tool used by power usurpers in fooling the masses, and aggrandizing more power. Maybe i am wrong in not believing Him, but for sure He is wrong by being mute to the miseries of billions of human beings who are suffering for no fault of theirs.
I will like to apologize if in any way i have hurt your feelings, and that too after you have given such an encouraging comment on my post, but still my fight with Him, or concept of Him, is really more old and intense.
( Also i really find it to be humiliating that in such an article I have to be again and again write Him, not Her. )
I hope you understand my problem.
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Shahwar K
kolkata, India
No feelings hurt here...I actually didn’t hint at the divine intervention here...but any ways, you have made your point clear!

no qualms or reservations about your belief though...everyone has the right to believe or not to believe as in your case!

but i believe in appreciating good articles and so here i am!

good work!
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Arjun
NCR, India
Thanks Shahwar.

Again without there being a call for explanation, i will say that as a student of Women Studies I felt that whatever religion i studied I found the position of women being inferior to men, and men always enjoying more and more power through that .

Even as a student of women Studies i felt that the course was more like gender sensitizing the society, and tacitly saying that women are weak and inferior.

And promoting my another article, which I wrote after a women-friendly judgment from the Supreme Court Of India,
http://arjunm.instablogs.com/entry/new-definition-of-sexual-harassment/

I found that in every manner we trying to affirm that women are weak and I am really against that
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Shahwar K
kolkata, India
”I found that in every manner we trying to affirm that women are weak and I am really against that”


there are not many people who think like that, Mr. Arjun...

but there are some and you seem to be one of them!

good for you and good for the world!

thanks...

will check out your post!
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Interesting discussion here. It reminds me that we are open to opinion submissions for our ’Discussion’ section of our print quarterly The Audience Review. Please take a moment to read the few guidelines at http://cspsapc.blogspot.com/2008/08/men-or-women-whos-more-intelligent.html and submit your opinion to me.

Looking forward,

Karim
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Arjun
NCR, India
Karim,
let me tell you my frank opinion..

While driving I felt that most women are bad drivers, but they are some exceptional drivers which can make anybody leave in awe.
Hows that possible ?

I just think it is how they are bought up in the society. Normally in our kind of society women are made to afraid of everything, and the second you honk they just lose their cool and end up committing errors..

Similarly in the post , there are not famous women writers in history is maybe because their creative has been killed by society, as they have been made to see themselves as fool and stopped from following their heart .

That’s my opinion... and we can overcome that if we make a society treating women or girls no different from men and boys
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Oscar
Oaxaca, Mexico
My wife is and always has been a ”tomboy”..She was raised to never say ”can’t” and supported in everything she put her mind to, be it masculine or feminine actions...We now raise our daughter the same way (which was quite difficult for me at first, as latin women were always feminine, and to be treated as such...) I see the way my 10 year old daughter is growing, and I am glad, I gave way to my wife’s desire ”to let her be.” She is strong, intellegent, agile, kind, compassionate, opinionated, reasonable, and just an incredible blessing of fire that loves nothing more than giving her two older brothers hell...
I think of the relationship I had with my sisters, everyhting, I as the oldest son, took from them, because it wasn’t the ”feminine” way...

I was wrong, we were wrong, society was wrong...I’m not saying to not treat them with upmost respect, but by treating them as fragile creatures, I think we may have caused them to fullfill something which was forced upon them., we MADE them the ”weaker” sex, we forced it upon them, like clipping a birds wings..Generations of women have been hindered by self -fullfilling prophecy..It doesn’t take long before always hearing you can’t, becomes a lifestyle, hindered and regretted by ”I can’t”.
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Michael C
Lyon, France
I totally agree with this comment.

Treating women as equals is such an important issue that no progress will be made in any area, be it political, rights, sexual abuse, work, social standing, until men start considering them for what they are.

WOMEN ARE PEOPLE!!!!!!

No more, no less, no better, no worse.

The subliminal machism inherent in this hypocritical male idea of ’respect’ for women makes my skin crawl. It’s the male excuse for inaction, and it’s intellectually and morally dishonest.

Moreover it seems to me that the more a society has these condescending values of ’respect’ the worse it treats its women.

Women don’t need the ’respect’ of men because they are women, they need the same respect as any person should grant to another......

Anything else is just maintaining the status quo...
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Thanks Osca and Arjun! Please send me the following information at dempsey87@gmail.com to go with your opinion:

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Thanks again!

Karim
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Thanks Osca and Arjun! Please send me the following information at dempsey87@gmail.com to go with your opinion:

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Thanks Osca and Arjun! Please send me the following information at dempsey87@gmail.com to go with your opinion:

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Thanks again!

Karim
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